[Reprint] yanglan: don’t make it happen on the children, “ikuko methods of successful career women”

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Yanglan: don’t make it happen on the children, “ikuko methods of successful career women.”.

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“Editor’s note” Yang LAN, female, born in Beijing. Chinese television presenter and entrepreneur. Talk show host, interview show of the interview with Yang LAN and women program of the woman in the world. In 2002, “China Women’s man of the year” title. Incumbent Chairman of the Sun culture Studios Board of Directors …

Being a media veteran, and mother of a son and daughter, Yang LAN of wit and sophistication, is reflected not only in the success of business, reflected in the child’s upbringing …

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Recently, in the “th Forum of new Oriental education”, from “what do kids love Internet” to “health and which is more important,” Yang LAN to share her many of the insights in the education of their children …

Her experiences are: personality development, physical and psychological development, IQ EQ AQ (anti-frustration ability) to no child left behind …

Parenting is not an easy task, teaching by example more persuasive than words,.

Don’t make it happen on the children. If full, happy, responsible, managing emotions, the child will imitate you..

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“The most important thing is to let the children see their parents how to behave”.

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As a career woman, she has also confused on how to balance work and life. Quite a long time, “every time I pack my bags ready to travel, I felt that I had done a particularly sorry about the baby. “She said,.

After a period of reflection, she feels unable to guilty for life. “。.

For a child, I think, more importantly saw his mother and father so enjoy their work and enjoy your life, who so enriched, to see such a big world and brought such an interesting story, and they have a baby when it comes to confusing for some guidance …

“Yang LAN’s godson, has become the most important point: …

Let the children see their parents is how to be a man, not just in terms of ethical dimensions, including how parents spend their lives …

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She asked a lot of careers are successful mothers, found many of their children are growing up very well, it gave her confidence and answer. “Kids reach a certain stage, you need to tell him what those closest to the collision and exchange of ideas. “She believes that when a child is thinking begins to produce, he needs a more powerful partner, and this time, if the parents are content merely to” blame “on their side, but they cannot give them nutrients, the children will not be satisfied with …

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She was in the relationship with my son gradually realize this truth. Yang LAN’s son is 16 years old, began to have the ability to think independently, when they saw some negative phenomena in society, also have their own critical thought, and that’s when he badly wanted to be an equally independent and critical thought’s mother told him, “If you just ask around him all day, ‘ what do you want to eat pork or roast fish, ‘ certainly not. ”。.

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    , Yang’s view is that whether it is perennially busy father, was able to spend time with the boy’s mother, …

The most important is to let the children see that you are a person full enjoyment of life, especially as a mother, first of all should have a very full and happy life, let the kids know: your life’s purpose can be done …

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“In life, husband and wife fight is inevitable, how to reduce this argument of harm to children? 】。.

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On one occasion, she told her husband there were fierce clashes, frightened children. After emotional stability, she and her husband are aware of just what you did a terrible thing. They came to children of room, single leg knelt in ground, with completely heads-up of angle with children said: “dad mom just do has a very errors of thing, we in you before as quarrel, and with has is not ya of language, we wanted to with you said, adults some when also will made some is stupid of things, like just we do of things on is stupid, we two sincere to to you apologized..

Please forgive us. First, MOM and dad still in love with each other, and secondly, we don’t want you to suffer any shock and hurt …

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Yang recalled that children accept their apology. Yang also reminded parents to try to control their emotions in front of children …

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Now, there was some anxiety in the community mothers, some are kids even hysterical barking. She thought it was “a very bad model.” Yang said …

A mother like their very negative things to be fully a chimney to vent out,.

Although it may temporarily suppress children down at the time, …

But the children will express their emotions in the same way,.

Whether for friends, colleagues, or treats on their own children,.

May fall into an unconscious habit. This is a very frightening “genetic”.

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Yang LAN management with special emphasis on the mother’s emotions, because mothers and children usually live longer, …

Her emotions just like air in the kid’s body! She was nervous, anxious, agitated, first hurt the children …

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To cultivate a happy child, being a mother myself first of all, have a happy …

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“In the face of Internet and TV, choose to believe baby.”.

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Today’s kids are the electronic generation, television and the Internet for them as if the air is indispensable. But at the same time, electronic also caused problems such as addiction in juvenile, as parents, how to control children use television and the Internet? …

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Yang LAN, this problem is solved in two stages …

Yang is encouraging kids to read, travel, experience a variety of social activities …

But while the children were small, like watching “pleasant goat”, she knows to stop children is not an option, so she was sitting next to her kids, one day, the boy said, “MOM, you are so naive, we really can’t watch this with you. “” Kids on TV cannot find too much for them to watch the show, don’t really like sitting in front of the TV. “She said …

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But the network is not so simple …

She does not share contacts in order to reduce child and electronics, makes home televisions, computers and other products all but disappeared, which artificially isolates. “This will greatly affect the child in classes and socializing. “Yang said that the result of this was that shift in there in one of the cartoons and said they are keen to see a game when the children have nothing to say …

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As the children into school, contacts and networks more and more, schools almost all homework is to be completed on the Internet, they are also often look like cartoons, movies over the network, chatting with students. See kids sitting in front of a computer, she began to panic, but she understands that …

If often ask the child what the hell you’re doing, is a distrust of children. Finally, Yang LAN and the kids had reached a “deal” …

: Eye protection, physical development, growth of the cervical spine and take into account all aspects such as learning, Monday through Friday Internet useless things, do not play games on Friday evenings, Saturdays and Sundays just play one hour a day. The boys agreed …

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Since the deal, Yang LAN will fully respect their choices. Children staying in front of the computer, was wondering what he was doing, but she just said: “ask him, he must be doing his homework. ”。.

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“Healthy body more important than class.”.

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Today’s children “pressure Alexander” schoolwork to do, Olympiad, English no less, after school to learn skills. Kid’s energy is limited, as parents, how can we help children to balance the various relationships, making choices and choose? …

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May be related to his own experience, she does not think those extracurricular classes have such a big role, on the contrary, in her view, on extracurricular classes is likely to let the child do not listen carefully in class,.

Her children did not go to the Olympics, she did not give them any extracurricular tuition associated with knowledge …

The extra time doing? Exercise, of course …

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“Everyone to see their children, particularly boys of her own, his bones, his muscles are really in development? “When Yang served as CPPCC members, and several members had submitted a proposal to improve the national physical fitness, in her view, the current juvenile’s physique is very worrying, both the explosiveness, stamina and the strength, overall less than Japan. And one’s body with its spiritual power, strength, activity and creativity, which had a direct relationship …

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Under such a background, in between the Olympics and sports, she did not hesitate to choose our kids campaign. “。.

If there are 100 points, only 85 points, I think, because they do not need to know the difficult topic …

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I need you to exercise, and I need your normal, healthy development, and when they grow up, have a healthy body, and has a very vibrant life …

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     the weekend, Yang gave the children plenty of time to sweat, exercise, and personally accompany. She found that it also gives her an unexpected harvest: kids building a “buddy”-like friendship, and contributed greatly to the parent-child relationship …

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“In fostering children’s interest, confusion for parents face choice.”.

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She admits that she made a mistake …

When the son is 5 years old, she had forced him to practice the piano. Piano teacher asked Yang’s son: “why do you want to learn the piano? “He replied,” MOM let me learn. ”。.

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     is learning piano for 4 years, suffering son, Yang is also unpleasant, “studying the hysterically shouted at him. “Finally one day, son said” MOM I want to hit the piano “, she realized that her son was not really fond of playing the piano, and terminated the son studying the career of …

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     Yang’s daughter likes to play the piano. She exclaims, even the same parents, same family,.

Varies per child, the child’s nature really a mystery, must fear for this …

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“” Rich and poor girls and boys “is the root of wealth”.

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In recent years, “boy poor raised girl rich raised” of claims in many dad MOM in the prevailed, this claims think, only poor raised boy, bitter its heart, Dr its bones, future he only can served as big any; only rich raised girl, in material Shang open its vision, in spirit Shang rich its thought, future she to seen wide, has opinionated, life happiness..

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She did shrug off the …

She considered too harsh for the boy will make him accustomed to obedience to authority, boys too poor or from childhood made him noticed …

In adulthood the way some people precisely because they are young are too poor, so much so that the money above all in his mind from childhood taken root, in order to achieve this goal, you can do anything. Similarly, the …

Some very good economic conditions, and coddled to the point of arrogance, ignorance, his daughter, as everyone knows, spoiled only when girls grow up spoiled rude …

“Who wants to marry a girl like this door? ”。.

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She believes that, whether the parents are poor or rich, the children will continue to run his own life. Therefore,.

Parents should let children learn from childhood spirit, emotions, values, to be able to put money in a reasonable position on …

She was the child was very young to instill in them an idea: after the age of 18, mother to university tuition fees have been paid in full, you will live your own …

Accept the notion that children correct attitude towards wealth will naturally grew slowly …

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Summer time, Yang LAN son to a museum intern, split wooden and nails, with workers taking notes, because it is a high school student, does not pay him for the Museum. Noon eat out, eat pizza for some students in the class, some students even more expensive to eat sushi, but sons think you still make money, I would buy a $ 5 worth of sandwiches to eat. After coming back, Yang LAN for son’s behaviour in terms of praise. Yang LAN and says, you want the math, assuming you’re a recent college graduate who can earn money every month, if the lunch cost 40 Yuan, means that you do not make a living …

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“The poor and the rich, in the final analysis is a wealth of values issues. “She believes that, whether a boy or a girl, the key is to build up the correct Outlook on values, wealth …

Struggling with poor, eutrophication problems, “often is the result of parents too much stress on money.”.

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“Turn self-circle of friends, thanks to the original author to share.”.

Editors: with Lotus …

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Youth should be blooming …

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[Reprint] yanglan: don’t make it happen on the children, “ikuko methods of successful career women”

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